Dis-satisfied with your body?

Did you get into the shower this morning and rub your belly. Did you pull open your P.J.'s and take a sideways look in the mirror? Did you think twice over breakfast and wonder if you should cut back on calories today? How many outfits did you try on to get the one that looks good.

Did you go shopping the past week and get exasperated because cloths just don;t fit. Did you look at your jeans and decide it time to go up in size or did you squeeze in? How did it feel? Do you love this body?

Well, 97% of women, at some time during their day,....don't.

Or is it really about the body at all. I've been there, I was a Bulimic in my 20's. When your a "bulimic",   you either are or your not. But the fact is, if you have a body image problem it is probably not about the weight. It is the image, the process in the brain that says, I'm not perfect. This is a  dangerous, psychologically telling that your feeling out of balance, because it is affecting your life, driving your behavior and dominating your life! It has nothing to do with the body... hating your body is an addiction, a mental emotional struggle that provokes behavior and interferes with your choices and your happiness.

Why do so many women hate their bodies? In some cases I grant you, it is a medical concern. Obesity is different than carrying a few extra pounds and has reach epidemic proportions in North America. And obesity comes with many dangers, high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes, more colds and flu, the list goes on and on. And then the psychological issues, dissatisfaction, self-loathing, underachievement, not trying new things, low self-esteem, issues with perfection, childhood baggage and trauma, disillusionment and a lack of knowing who we are at the deepest level of our existence.

We've not been taught about discovering our core values, what drives our behavior and why it is important. It is the foundation of our happiness and it is either non-existent or unconscious.

And the western world isn't bent that way,doesn't encourage us to search for meaning in our lives. To look internally for higher purpose. Eastern philosophies touch on core values, but western cultures went another route, wealth, material items, a bigger house, Hollywood! All came along with distorted images of what a body should look like bombard all of us each and everyday.

We are taught that money is more important than the stress it creates that damages our health, that success will make us happy, I'll be happy when...or the illusion of success is what makes us unhappy.

But truly, I know so many wealthy people and they are no happier than the rest of us. In fact, on my travel through Asia, I visited some of the poorest regions of the world. The children had no shoes, no clothing to speak of, and NO TOYS. I saw children laughing and playing with old tires rolling them down the street. Playing outside with each other, not huddled over a I-pad at the age of 2. They were happy, calm and content with big open smiling faces, wonderment in nature, laughing with friends. So has weight got any relationship to happiness? In many cases I think yes...

Why is body hate front and center?

What are we thinking? Why are so many human so unhappy, discontent, resigned to a life that loves to taunt people that carry a few extra pounds. Why the bullying, a classic low-self esteem issue of pumping yourself up by putting other down. The discrimination, rampant, excessive, distasteful; sorry the pun; towards people that carry a few extra pounds. Are skinny people happy? I think not and too skinny is just as unhealthy as obesity. Is it an illusion that skinny people are happier, healthier, smarter, more in control? Hmmm.. do you know any unhappy skinny people! YUP! So whats the answer?

Its' all in the mind, we are what we think. You think you look great, you will feel better. You think your healthy, you will be healthier than the next person that thinks they are unhappy. It is a self-love, self-esteem and self-worth issue. We must chose what we want, We must find out what it is we want and know WHY it is important, and if that issue is to lose a few pounds, understand why will help you achieve your goals.

Empowerment, core values, support and Happiness are all choices, because it is more than weight that makes women hate their bodies. I have many overweight clients and I feel the underlying cause is an over all disconnectedness with life. So how do we change that?

Exploring why women hate their body.

Hate is a pretty harsh term, why so intense? It is a mental set of many generations that is fueled by unattainable expectation and warped senses of reality.

With children dieting by the age of 8, I would say we have a major crisis on our hands. And it isn't just a body image problem, it's a being human problem. Most human beings are all so fragile, it's part of our nature. We may mask our feelings, compensate our realities, but when the SHIT hits the fan, we are searching...

Body image it is a holistic problem, body, mind and soul. Mental emotional unconscious driven behavior. Not understanding the psychology behind the pleasure centers of the brain. Missing the cues between being thirsty or hungry. Reaching for short term satisfaction and material distraction rather than deeper more satisfying outlets that provide us with value in our lives.

It's a big ball of  low Self-esteem, self-worth, feeling unloved and that we don't belong. All part of our early psychological evolution, our psychological foundation that is understudied and undervalued.

For solutions, we start with the basic psychology and analysis and then we explore, discover, uncover, process, heal and evolve. we move, shift, transform our thinking and ourselves.

1. It's always about emotional pain. We look at our emotional baggage, we sit with it until we can let it go...
2. We look at the root causes, where the baggage originates and we forgive...
3. We connect with people that encourage our brilliance. We laugh!
4. We let go of outdated models and images
5. We become strong in the knowledge of who we are at the deepest level of our existence
6. We become grateful for what we have...
7. We give back...
8. We pay it forward
9. We pursue our passions and encourage others to do the same
10. We learn to love and respect ourselves

It's a beautiful journey of self discovery, recovery and defining happiness.

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